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7 Lessons Learned from 25 Years of Marriage

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It’s hard to believe I’m writing an article about what I’ve learned in 25 years of marriage; just saying 25 years of marriage sounds crazy to me!

 

Trust me, I never knew that night I met Randy in a hot tub that one day we’d share a beautiful daughter, Alex, travel, move, and ride the crazy waves of life as we have together.

 

Randy + Rochelle.

Randy + Rochelle.

Now, I’m not the sentimental type, so I won’t get too gushy here, so I thought I’d share 7 lessons learned from 25 years of marriage – the good, the bad and the ugly – because that’s marriage in its full glory, right?!

 

I hope you enjoy!

 

 



7 Lessons Learned from 25 Years of Marriage

 

1.     Have a sense of humor; life is literally too short to take things too seriously.

 

2.     Have a husband/partner who is a great cook. It’s hard to stay mad at someone who just made you dinner!

 

3.     Don’t go to bed mad at each other when there’s Ambien®!

 

4.     When you’re in the throws of perimenopause, don’t poke the bear (literally + figuratively!).

 

Budweiser + a good time!

Budweiser + a good time!

5.     An alcoholic beverage and a good sense of humor can go a long way.

 

6.     Appreciate the other person; even if they’re driving you crazy.

 

7.     Learn to accept the other person for who they are + how you complement each other because of that.

 


My graduation with Randy + Baby Alex.

My graduation with Randy + Baby Alex.


Cheers to 25 years of lessons learned and the people we are now because of everything we’ve endured.






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I’ll raise my favorite glass of red wine to that!





Health Benefits of (Real) Chocolate

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If the month of February doesn’t scream chocolate, I’m not sure what does.

I mean, not only is this the month of love but all things love-inducing as well. And if we’re being honest, real chocolate has the potential to do a lot of love-inducing.

Now, before you fly out the door to stock up on all of those chocolate-laden candy bars – mini size and all – keep reading because there’s a major difference between chocolate you think you’re getting in a candy bar versus a real-deal hunk of chocolate.

Not to mention the health benefits correlated with this tropical tree seed called cacao.

But first, a little background on this little bean…

 

Chocolate: Cacao or Cocoa – What’s the Difference?

In Latin, this tropical, evergreen tree Theobroma Cacao — which contains cacao fruits (pods of cacao beans) — literally means “Food for the Gods”.

In America, it’s easy to confuse the difference between cacao and cocoa. Growing up I never heard my mom say, “Come get your hot cacao, Sweetie!”

Now that we’re in a bit of a health craze in this country the differences in cacao and cocoa are being talked about.

So, what are the differences exactly?

Cacao is the pure, raw form of chocolate.

Cocoa is more processed – with high heat – and oftentimes sugar, milk fat and oil have been added to it.

Cocoa is the hot chocolate of our childhood and the candy bars we hand out at Halloween (or stash in our desks at work).

Cacao is the health craze of today and the purest form of chocolate, packed with all of those health benefits you’re looking for!

However, you’ll often hear both cocoa and cacao used interchangeably even though they can be distinctly different.

 

Ok, so what exactly are these health benefits we’re hooting and hollering about?

 

Health Benefits of Chocolate

Before we dig into the health benefits of chocolate, we want to acknowledge that 85% dark chocolate – with little to no processing or added sugars – is highly recommended for being the most beneficial for your mind + body.

Ok, now for those health benefits of chocolate we keep talking about…

 

•  Antioxidant High Achiever: If dark chocolate was taking a test on its ability to fight free radicals and support antioxidant activity; their score would be higher than most (including blueberries). Looking to fight the signs of aging? Bring on the cacao and antioxidants, please!

 

•  Chocolate Truly Does Love the Heart: You know that LDL cholesterol everyone says to keep low? Well, in observational studies chocolate has been shown to protect against oxidation; therefore arteries are less clogged and risk of heart disease is potentially lower. Thank you, dear chocolate!

 

• Brain Booster: With stimulants like caffeine and theobromine (the good-energy stimulant that doesn’t crash the central nervous system) and high-flavanols that support circulation and blood flow – chocolate is primed to boost the brain. Who says you can’t have a nibble of chocolate before a test or big meeting?!

 

• High on Happy: You know how we said February is the month of all things love-inducing? Well, chocolate may be one of the culprits for that feeling in the brain. Serotonin, dopamine, and endorphins – your “happiness neurotransmitters” – can be released when chocolate is consumed. Before you know it you’re feeling all the feelings from these happy chocolate neurotransmitters!

 

 

A Note on Chocolate – The Pitfalls?

 

As we mentioned, the most concentration of nutrients and health benefits of chocolate are found in cacao – specifically dark, 85% chocolate – with little to no added sugars or processed ingredients.

 

Grabbing a bunch of candy bars and thinking that’s going to boost the brain and send you into happy land – probably not.

 

Go for that dark chocolate, or heck, grab some raw cacao powder at your local health food store and make your very own hot chocolate.

 

 

Whether February is your month to spread the love or that’s just not your thing – keep in mind the power of chocolate (the cacao kind, anyway). This hunk of dark chocolate can ramp up those antioxidants (hello anti-aging!), boost that brain power (bring on that meeting!), keep your cholesterol (LDL specifically) in check (I love you, heart!) and help you get into your happy place…one small nibble of chocolate at a time!


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How to Ease into The New Year (Without Losing Your Mind)

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Oh hello, 2019!

 

Have you noticed there are two very distinct camps of people when it comes to making stuff happen and crushing goals in the new year?

 

The super energetic, full of vigor, jazzercising camp – “Let’s DO THIS PEOPLE!!” (With so many exclamation points and in all caps because they’re shouting this from the rooftops).  

 

And the Eeyore-laden, ho-hum camp – “Another year. Another shmyear. Whatever.” (In the most mundane tone because they just don’t do excitement very well).

 

But what if there was another camp?

 

Yes, let’s create another camp and call it Easy Like Sunday Morning Camp (and tip our hats to Lionel Richie).

 

This new year camp is all about ease + productivity; grit + grace; get’er done + give it some time.

 

 

The new year can be full of so much hope + excitement it’s easy to get swept up into goal setting and what you want to accomplish for the next twelve months, the next thing you know anxiety is setting in.  

 

Before you know it overwhelm sweeps up any feelings of excitement and eagerness for what you want to accomplish in the new year.

 

And why is that?

 

Because we’re not giving ourselves enough time to integrate, to decipher what we want and don’t want – instead, we’re just looking at placing a checkmark next to our daily/weekly/yearly goals.

 

We’re too hard on ourselves.

We expect too much too soon.

And the next thing you know a pint of ice cream has vanished and it’s gurgling in the belly – because overwhelm.

 

 

What if we changed that paradigm?

 

What if we usher in 2019 in a way that feels good?

 

If this sounds like a better plan than you have now – then we have some Easy Like Sunday Morning tips for your best year yet (without all the overwhelm).

  

 

Ease into The New Year Tips

  

1.    Set goals (but be spacious with your time + self-love)

 

Have a ginormous, behemoth goal this year? (Good for you, by the way!)

Does this goal scare you a bit? That’s what big goals do, don’t they? They’re equally frightening and exhilarating.

 

What if, every time you got scared with this big one, you also gave yourself some space + time as well?

Perhaps your goal needs a new timeline?

Perhaps you need to recalibrate?

Perhaps you need to scrap the whole thing?

 

Give yourself enough time to cultivate + create as well as be gentle with how this goal is playing out.  

 

Be tenacious + flexible!

 

 

2.    Experiment (replace the word goals with experiments)

 

Does the word goal send tingles down your back?

 

If you’re in the category of people that just don’t love the word “goals” – what if you replace that word with experiment?

 

Sometimes we just need an energy shift that helps us take the pressure off and find more fun and freedom with all the things we want to do in the new year.

 

Here’s a little script that can help shift your mindset –

 

Goal/experiment: Lose 15 pounds.

 

Mindset/Mantra: “This year I’m going to experiment with foods that make me feel good + a lifestyle that supports high energy levels, clear thinking and more movement in my daily life.”

 

Instead of making things too strict; make your focus about feeling better and experiment with what will help you do that!

 

 

3.    Remember the “little” wins

 

Don’t forget to acknowledge the wins you achieve on a daily or weekly basis.

 

Maybe you packed your lunch for work more than you didn’t.  

Maybe you got up 30-minutes early 4 out of 7 days.  

Maybe you simply showed up for yoga class.

 

Sometimes showing up – more often than not – is all you need to keep the momentum going…

 

So, keep showing up!

 

 

Whether you’re bogged down by goal overload or haven’t even thought about what you want from 2019 – we hope these tips and mind shifts help you feel less stress + more spacious as you move through this new year!



Welcome to SKIN by Rochelle Elijah, MD

Welcome to SKIN by Rochelle Elijah, MD

Welcome to SKIN by Rochelle Elijah, MD. This news blog will highlight important information and news about skin care and general wellness. We hope that you will join us on this journey and discover your beauty.

 

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